Sin is still Sin
Change is good, i have heard that enough times that i don't think i could forget it anymore, for a long time i hated hearing it because it sounded like being told there was something fundamentally wrong with being myself. You can change, you should want to change, you don't have to remain the person you are now.
After therapy i spent a long time deciding which things i'd been told were worth keeping, some of it made me angry for years because i couldn't understand why anyone would insist so strongly on changing something that felt so completely mine. i understand more of it now, when somebody can see that you're walking directly toward something bad and you refuse to turn around, eventually kindness doesn't always look like agreement.
Not everything inside me deserves to survive simply because it is mine, my mind has been wrong before, my feelings have been wrong before, i've been completely certain about things that weren't true and defended things that were hurting me because admitting that would have meant changing them. I can see that much more clearly now because i'm not living the way i was then, other people can see it too. i'm calmer, less impulsive, more useful, more reliable, and there are things that used to control entire parts of my life that barely have a place in it anymore.
The same applies to sin, because sin does not stop being sin because enough people agree to stop calling it that, and something being normal or common doesn't make it Good, something feeling natural doesn't make it good either. The world changes its mind constantly about what a person should accept in themselves and the internet changes even faster, sometimes all it takes is finding enough people who agree with you and suddenly something you once knew you should resist becomes something you're told you would be harming yourself by resisting.
God does not change because public opinion does.
There were things i made so completely part of my identity that questioning them felt like questioning me as a person, but calling something part of myself does not baptize it. Faith doesn't promise that everything already inside a person is good, repentance requires that there actually be something to repent of, and Christ tells the woman in John 8:11, "Go, and now sin no more." Mercy doesn't require pretending there was never anything wrong, and love doesn't require agreeing with everything somebody wants for themselves either, Sometimes loving somebody means wanting something better for them than what they are currently willing to want.
I didn't understand that when i was younger, correction felt like rejection because i couldn't imagine somebody looking at something i considered part of myself and wanting it gone without also wanting me gone. I know now that those aren't necessarily the same thing, you can want somebody to remain while wanting something that is destroying them to leave, and maybe the people who refused to simply agree with me understood that long before i did.
St. Paul writes, "If then any be in Christ a new creature, the old things are passed away, behold all things are made new." (2 Corinthians 5:17) The old things are passed away, Faith is full of becoming new, putting away the former life, repentance, discipline and dying to sin, there isn't much instruction to preserve yourself exactly as you were found.
The internet was very good at giving me reasons to do that, there was always another person saying everything was fine or too Bad for me to get Better, another community where nobody was allowed to question anything too closely, another explanation for why changing yourself was automatically repression or Lies and accepting yourself was automatically healthy, I believed a lot of it because it was comforting, because being told there was nothing to change required much less from me than actually changing.
Now i look at my life and there is an obvious before and after, i'm not living in the same constant chaos, I don't react to everything the way i used to, i don't need every feeling validated before i can let it pass and i don't treat every desire as an instruction.
If something in me is good, examining it won't make it sinful, if something is sinful, calling it authentic won't make it good, and if something separates me from God then I don't care how normal the world eventually decides it is. Normal isn't the standard i'm supposed to answer to. The old self is not sacred merely because she came first, her sins aren't heirlooms and i don't have to carry them forward just to prove nobody succeeded in changing me.
One day the person I used to be will feel completely unfamiliar to me, and i'll know there is nothing left to go back to.
People who have made peace with their own sin will often ask you to make peace with yours too, because repentance looks like judgment to someone who has decided there is nothing to repent of, some people will even call returning to sin freedom, because they cannot understand why anyone would willingly leave behind something they have already decided to serve.